Men In Love

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Love and sex are two different things, as long as you keep that in mind as well as an open mind this book is pretty damned good! Thinking about doing sex acts with people is just not a mental world I live in, and this book made me grateful for it - but it was interesting that many men's minds are so consumed by such simple, uninsightful, nonproductive behaviors. no signs of cover wear, clean glossy, pages clean, bright and unmarked, spine tightListing Includes Books Image. I'd give 3* for the content, but I increased to 4* because, like Nancy, I am a believer in a better future where both sexes can work together rather than in opposition, and this book - at least to me - proves that the men in this world have the necessary rudimentary contoure in their psyche to move in that direction. Instead of a range of sexual fantasies from gay men which would be no less fascinating and complex as the fantasies of straight men, we get an essay on the psychological underpinnings of homosexual identity.

Friday said she got very few rape fantasies among her submissions, though I think her definition of what constitutes a rape fantasy may be significantly narrower than mine because she said she got only 3, and I counted several more than that in the book. Her approach is heavily psychoanalytic, relying on the primal conflicts the young boy faces in early life with mother and father for its explanatory power. Unfortunately, I couldn't get my guy to read this but I did manage to lend it out to a male friend and I'll be interested to hear his take on the book.Love requires another person, and these men's mental landscapes are populated by no one but themselves and their marionettes. Many more holistic views of the woman (rather than assemblage of hot body parts) and scenarios (more than just "she's my secretary/boss" level of setup of the scene) as key parts of fantasies than I'd expected from past things I'd read about men's relationship to porn.

The only ones who did were men in analysis, which already sets up a situation in which the result is going to be skewed if they are viewing their fantasies from the standpoint that there is something wrong with what they desire. The wonderful part about the section where straight men fantasize about sex with men is that it shows two things at once--men who identify as straight and men who at the same time fantasize at times about sex with other men.An extraordinary, explicitly masculine journey, Men In Love develops a startlingly honest portrayal of what it means to be a man in contemporary America. In the mean time, it gave me and my partner lots to talk about and each conversation was fun if not surprising. Friday is pretty much unsufferable and I'd cheerfully string her up and apply a cane to her for making such idiotic assumptions about women, and engaging in quite some downtalking to men. I guess fantasies are not intended to be judged; but when the so strongly reflect half the population's stance to something as vital as sex?

As we grow older, become socialized, and develop identity, the satisfactions we pursue become more specific. I might have been able to finish it if it were around 200 pages, but at 472 pages, it just becomes tiresome and gross, regardless of the psychobabble explanations on the side. I wish I could remember who said this, but this book also affirms one of the first things I read when I discovered radical feminism, which was "We will never fuck our way out of the patriarchy.I go back to this book time and time again, not to turn me on, but to give me a deeper understanding of male sexuality. He need no longer fear making his proposition, need not fear he may not perform well: The sexually enflamed woman in this myth is so close to orgasm right from the start that nothing is going to hold her back.